Demons are not bloodthirsty ghouls waiting for us in dark places; they are within us, the forces that we find inside ourselves, the core of which is ego-clinging. Demons are our obsessions and fears, feelings of insecurity, chronic illnesses, or common problems like depression, anxiety, and addition. Feeding our demons rather than fighting them may seem to contradict the conventional approach of attacking and attempting to eliminate that which assails us, but it turns out to be a remarkable alternative and an effective path to liberation from all dichotomies.
In my own process of learning about budhism demos are not exotic beings like this one i saw in Asian (lol). They are our present fears and obsessions, the issues and emotional reactivity of our own lives. Our demons, all stemming from the root demon of ego-clinging, but manifesting in an infinite variety of ways, might come from the conflicts we have with our partner , anxiety we feel when we fly, or the discomfort we feel when we look at ourselves in the mirror.
We might have a demon that makes us fear abandonment or a demon that causes us to hurt the ones we love. Demons are ultimately generated by the mind and, as such, have no independent existence. Nonetheless, we engage with them as though they were real, and we believe in their existence—ask anyone who has fought an addiction or anxiety attacks.
Demons show up in our lives whether we provoke them or not, whether we want them or not. Unfortunately, the habit of fighting our demons only gives them strength. By feeding, not fighting, our demons, we are integrating these energies, rather than rejecting them and attempting to distance ourselves from disowned parts of ourselves, or projecting them onto others.
- STEP ONE: FIND THE DEMON
- STEP TWO: PERSONIFY THE DEMON AND ASK IT WHAT IT NEEDS
- STEP THREE: BECOME THE DEMON
- STEP FOUR: FEED THE DEMON AND MEET THE ALLY
- STEP FIVE: REST IN AWARENESS
