- Eat \”Happy\” Foods
You not only are what you eat, but you act like what you eat, too. Food affects mood, behavior and relationships. If you eat foods that create bliss, your relationships will be happier, too.
Foods that support happy moods are fresh, whole, and organic. The more fresh and digestible the foods, the more they create ojas, the biochemical equivalent to bliss and happiness. Meals that include lots of fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, fresh milk products such as panir and lassi, healthy oils such as ghee and olive oil, and unprocessed sweeteners are recommended in Ayurveda. Foods that are cooked fresh each day by yourself with love, or by someone who loves you, are considered the most ojas-producing.
A school in Appleton, Wisconsin, banned all fast food chains, candy machines and soft drinks from the premises. Instead they fed the children and teenagers whole grain breads and well-rounded meals cooked with old-fashioned recipes. Since instituting the program, the principal and teachers report that violence, fighting, and truancy are markedly down, while grades and attention spans have soared. Other area schools are adopting a similar program as a result.
- Prevent Relationship MeltdownAlmost everyone wants to be loving, kind, considerate and supportive. The trouble comes when the stress of daily living becomes too great, and then tempers flare, anxiety surfaces, and you find yourself saying or doing something you later regret.
To prevent this type of relationship meltdown, plan your day to prevent stress from building up. The ayurvedic routine aligns your daily rhythms to be in tune with Nature. Exercising every day, for instance, is extremely helpful in keeping the emotions balanced. Breathing deep and inhaling fresh oxygen while outdoors is especially helpful in banishing fatigue, depression and anxiety.
- Give Yourself a BreakGetting enough sleep is another key to preventing relationship meltdown. Lack of sleep can cause anxiety, anger and depression and certainly doesn\’t help relationships.
Research shows that most adults need 8 to 8½ hours a night, and children need up to 12 hours.
- Practice Unconditional ForgivenessIt\’s important to forgive unconditionally. Saying you forgive a person if she changes her behavior is conditional forgiveness. This creates a hidden, slow poison that later manifests in the relationship as a dangerous, deadly sickness.
The heart craves unconditional forgiveness. The mind is always trying to set some conditions, but if you forgive someone unconditionally, it will be more healing for yourself. If you practice this over time, your overall attitude and behavior will become more nourishing — and that helps build and maintain relationships. Unconditional forgiveness keeps the mind under the influence of the heart. That\’s what you need in relationships — your heart predominating over your mind.
- Look to Yourself FirstProblems in relationships are often caused by an imbalance in Sadhaka Pitta, the subdosha of Pitta concerned with the heart.
When Sadhaka Pitta is out of balance, the first sign is to think, \”I am right and my friend is wrong.\” At a time when you should look to yourself to correct the situation, you end up blaming others.
Whenever your heart tells you to blame your spouse, your partner, or your friend, take that as an opportunity to scan your own behavior, to see what you might have done to create that difficult situation. If you are honest, most of the time you will find that that you have done something to create the crisis — and maybe the other person has also made a mistake, but not as big an error as you first may have thought. This sort of attitude goes a long way in preventing a fight.
To keep Sadhaka Pitta in balance, eat plenty of sweet, juicy fruits and other cooling, Pitta-pacifying foods. Organic Rose Petal Spread is a delicious tonic for Sadhaka Pitta. Add it to warm milk before bed, or spread it on toast. Any time you feel yourself blaming someone else, take a teaspoon of Organic Rose Petal Spread and watch your thinking become more balanced. The Blissful Joy herbal formula is also designed to uplift the emotions and balance Sadhaka Pitta.
- Know Your LimitationsIt helps to know your own strengths and weaknesses. If you tend to get cranky when you delay or skip meals, do yourself and your loved ones a favor and organize your life so you can regularly eat your meals before you get too hungry. Keep a juicy pear or other healthy snack handy for those times when you really can\’t eat on time.
For anyone with strong Pitta, eating three regular meals is important, and you may need to plan a late-afternoon snack as well. Eat your main meal at noon to pacify Pitta, and lighter meals in the morning and evening, and take Blissful Joy tablets.
For Kapha body types, you may find that lethargy gets in the way of healthy relationships. Take care to wake up early, before 6:00 a.m.; eat light, Kapha-pacifying foods; exercise every day. The invigoration you\’ll feel from balancing Kapha dosha will infuse new life into your relationships as well.
Vata types should be careful not to let excessive worries or anxieties cloud perceptions. Be sure to get plenty of rest, meditate regularly, do a daily ayurvedic oil massage (abhyanga), and eat a nourishing, warm Vata-pacifying diet.
- Understand the Needs of OthersPaying attention to the influence of the doshas can also help you understand the behavior of others. While you may be able to process disappointments quickly, for instance, your wife may take much longer to get over a negative situation. Rather than criticizing her, it\’s best to recognize that she needs more time to recover, and to give her the love and encouragement she needs.
If your child is often disorganized and forgetful, this may be due to a Vata imbalance. You can help him feel more grounded by preparing foods that are warm, nourishing, cooked and unctuous. Using the Vata, Pitta and Kapha Churnas and teas makes it easy to accommodate each family member\’s needs, even if their body types are different from yours.
- Practice Harmonizing BehaviorsIt helps to make a habit of harmonizing. Positive behaviors not only help relationships; research shows that they also make us feel healthier and live longer. The ancient ayurvedic texts emphasize this connection between behavior and health, and offer guidelines for health-producing behaviors called achara rasayanas. These behaviors are considered to be as longevity-enhancing as the special herbal elixirs known as rasayanas.
Achara rasayanas include being truthful, calm, free of anger, nonviolent, charitable, simple, well-behaved, positive, self-controlled, unconceited, devoted to love and compassion, and having control of the senses.
Achara rasayana doesn\’t mean forcing yourself to think positively — it means cultivating a state of health in which it\’s natural to act harmoniously. These choices include the ayurvedic diet and daily routine, and in particular abstaining from alcohol, engaging in meditation, staying balanced in sleep and wakefulness, eating sattvic foods such as ghee, knowing the measure of time and place, and keeping the company of the wise.
- Plan Quiet Time TogetherSometimes the sheer noise of our busy lives can get in the way of relationships. Try infusing some soothing scents and sounds into your home environment. Gandharva Veda music, for instance, even if played at a low volume in a corner of the house, creates a harmonizing, calming effect on the entire household. Ayurveda aromas, such as Calming (Vata), Blissful Heart, Slumber Time or Worry Free, can make everyone feel more relaxed and blissful.
Try creating a \”noise free\” zone each evening in which you turn off the TV, turn down the lights, and spend a half hour listening to music, talking, or reading a book out loud. Spending quiet time together before bed can be as nourishing to adults as to children.
- Make Blissful Choices
By now you may be thinking: \”How am I going to find time to cook healthy foods, follow an ayurvedic routine, work my job and still take care of my family?\”
This is where your power of choice comes in. Will you feel happier watching the latest episode of the hottest TV show or getting an extra hour of sleep? Is your time better spent preparing a loving and healthy meal for your family or poring over work you have brought home?
Eating the right foods and following an ayurvedic routine does take time, but it is time well spent. The good thing is that taking care of your own physical, mental and emotional health will nurture your relationships too. And that is a win-win situation we all want to cultivate.
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Information from: VPK By Maharishi Ayurveda
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